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How To Avoid A Failed Marriage

    Without dealing with the issue of marrying for the wrong reasons, you cannot stop the rise in failed marriages that look as though is in vogue lately.

    One of the major causes of failed marriages today is because of marrying for the wrong reasons.

    The divorce rate recorded in any part of the world including Africa has never been recorded before in the history

    Marriage is the most effective anti-poverty program me any nation can have

    The brooking institution says if they had in America the marriage rate they had in the 70’s, there would be a 25% drop in poverty.

    Singles mother hood is the major cause of poverty.

    HOW DO WE AVOID FAILED MARRIAGES?

    1. AVOID DESPERATION: Desperation provides you with a short term solution and leads you to a long term of misery.

    When you are desperate you pick anything, and you give in to anything.

    A man or a woman you want to spend the rest of your life with should not be picked in a hurry.

    In any organization in Nigeria, when they hire a staff, it take them about six months to confirm you as a full stuff. At times is longer. If an organization that can lay a staff off at anything, are that careful not to hire a wrong stuff, why would a person planning to get into a life time institution not take at list six month to watch a prospective spouse.

    It is better not to be single than to be married and miserable.

    As a singles person, it is wrong to view marriage as a source of happiness. Marriage is not a source of happiness but God is, God could not have created anything that will take his place in your life.

    Whether you are married or singles create a source of joy within. If you are a happy single, you will not pick any thing that comes your way.  That will lead you to live a miserable life.

    God created a spouse for everyone on planet earth. He was careful enough to create a mate for animal, it is better to wait than to get into marriage and very good that should have proceeded from you.

    Wrong marriage will trap your gift, your relationship with God, with men, everything good around you and leave you with a lifelong misery.

    One of the ways to avoid wrong marriages is to avoid desperation.

    1. LIMIT YOUR DRIVE FOR MATERIAL GAINS: This is one major reason for failed marriage today, people tend to look for material gains or comfort at the expense of every other values. These days when people meet a lady or a guy, the first thing they want to look at is: what or where does he or she work, what car does he drive. Even the parents of these days; when you tell some parent about a suitor, the first thing they ask is what does he do? God help you if your reply is “He just has one little job he manages but things will improve” their countenance will drop; so people look at addition and forget about the real thing which is:- personalities, his or her values, morals, character, love for God and people. When they get into marriage, they suddenly realize that outside the material gain that over shadowed their minds, there is need for other things that makes life enjoyable.

    I tell you, no matter the money your spouse has, without a good character, good moral value and a heart of love for God and you; you are on a suicide mission.

    Money itself is not a bad thing, comfort is a very good thing but not at the expense of other vital things.

    1. KNOW WHAT YOU TRULY WANT: Avoiding failed marriage, start from marrying the right spouse. When looking for a spouse, the first step is to know what you truly want because if you do not know what you want, you will settle for anything, when you know what you want, you easily identify it, when it comes.

    As early as 18years of age, I already knew that I wanted in a husband. Five out of the ten was not negotiable. That served as a guide to me along the road to positioning myself to be found by the right man.

    Knowing what you want help you maintain focus on the road of marrying the right spouse that leads to a successful married life.

    1. HAVE PATIENCE: As long as you live on earth, patience is required because there will always be things you desire that are not yet in your hands.

    There is only one thing that can fill the gap between where you are right now and where you desire to be and not cause you to be weary and that is “Patience”

    (We know faith is what you hold in the absence of what you want but, faith only will not be able to bridge the gap with making worry. Faith tells you it is done, some of you will want it now because if it is done why don’t I have it?)

    But patience tells you it is under process so, you are waiting but not worried because you know you will have it after all.

    So whether you are already in marriage or desiring to go into marriage; you need patience in both side of the coin to avoid failed marriage.

    When you know what you want as a single person you need patience to wait for it and not jump into the wrong one when you think there is a delay.

    When you are already married you need patience to avoid failed marriage. You need patience to turn a sick marriage to a healthy one. It is the only tool to turn a trash to a treasure.

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