This topic is strictly the thought and intent of the institutor of the marriage institution not my personal idea.
What is marriage?
For you to completely understand the role of finance in marriage, you have to first understand what marriage is, the role of each partner and the role of finance to them.
Marriage was originally designed to be a three party covenant, two physical opposite sex parties and one invisible party; making the three fold cord.
Marriage was designed in the form of God, which has three personalities. “God the father, son and the Holy Spirit”
The man, woman and the Holy Spirit.
Mal 2:15 “Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? “Godly offspring”.
When you have a human flesh that has the spirit of God in Him, he becomes godly, when a godly person produces a seed, you have a godly seed.
He created the marriage institution in his form so everything that comes out of that institution becomes like him.
Genesis 2:26 ”Then God said, “Let us (referring to his team) make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them (referring to a man and woman) have dominion
27) “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them”
This was why, until Eve came in, God never blessed Adam alone because it had to be “them” to have dominion not “him” only.
HOW DID THE FIRST MAN AND WOMAN MANAGE THEIR BLESSINGS OR FINANCES?
Adam was the first to come to the place of abundance called Eden. He was working and eating but he did not own the garden.
Genesis 2:15 The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and keep it. And the Lord God commanded the man, saying, “You may surely eat of every tree of the garden,
God saw and thought that man was not designed to be alone, and kept saying, “it is not good that a man should be alone”, life is tough for him being alone, he owns nothing being alone, he is not able to dominate being alone. “I will make him a helper suitable for him”.
(Genesis 2: 18 and 20)
Genesis 1:28) And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”
And God said, “Behold, I have given you every plant yielding seed that is on the face of all the earth, and every tree with seed in its fruit. You shall have them for food. And to every beast of the earth and to every bird of the heavens and to everything that creeps on the earth, everything that has the breath of life, I have given every green plant for food.” And it was so.
So Eve brought the blessing, and both enjoyed it equally.
Adam never told Eve, this is mine and that is yours, he only told her of what God said of the one fruit they should not eat.
Also, the personalities that marriage was formed after, does things together and takes the glory together.
You often hear Jesus say, I and my father are one. Jesus has complete access to all that belongs to the father. Any marriage that operates differently from this order has been programmed to fail and also will not enjoy all that marriage carries.
So in marriage, the finance that comes into the family are supposed to be used together.
If a man earns a hundred thousand and the wife earns fifty thousand. The income of that family is one hundred and fifty thousand naira, after you have given God 10% which is very important to maintain God’s constant flow in the family.
The income one hundred and thirty-five thousand, that should be used for the immediate and the future plans of the family
If the wife earns one hundred and fifty thousand naira and the husband earns fifty thousand naira, the family’s income is two hundred naira.
That mentality that says, I earn more than my husband should be avoided.
When husband earns five hundred thousand naira and wife earns nothing, the family’s income is five hundred thousand naira and should be used together. Not that one party keeps it and the other have to beg for it.
Each time you hear “my own”, in a family, there is a strong influence of darkness present in that home.
Selfishness is a sign of strong presence of Satan; he was the first to display that character trait.
In heaven, everyone was in one accord, all worshiping God, and God also blessing them like him. God didn’t say let me keep all the power and Glory to myself.
But Satan thought of himself. “Let me be like God, He has so blessed me, I also have angels under me let me convert them to worship me”.
When you see any partner in a marriage hiding money for self-benefit. He or she is under the influence of the devil and when you allow his influence in any part of your life, he will give you his fruits also and he has so many negative fruits
Sickness
Mistrust
Troubles
Discord etc
The benefit of financial harmony
a. Abundance
b. Trust
c. Togetherness
d. Peace
e. Love
f. Achieving purpose
g. Selflessness.
h. Growth.
Negative effects of financial dishonesty.
a. Distrust: – Anywhere there is distrust, there cannot be love. Because trust is the foundation love stands on
b. Selfishness:- When your spouse notices you are not honest and open with finances, he or she will start looking for another means of income.
Finance is too important to human existence that no one can completely live without it, so they will surely look for a means to meet their needs. That is the reason you see some wives are telling lies, inflating figures.
Some men will send their wife’s to hell with their stingy attitude.
Where there is selfishness, you see discord, lack of peace and hatred
c. Disagreement: – Satan loves this part a lot, when he is able to keep couples in constant disagreement. He is able to rob them off anything he wants.
Because the bible clearly states in
Mark 3:25
“And if a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand”.
Satan knows when he is able to keep you in disagreement, he can rob you off blessings and he can also break your marriage. Be very conscious of division and do everything to avoid constant disagreement in your home.
God bless you