- Improve your style of approach: The first tool God gave to human beings to work on earth was a communication tool,
(Gen 2:15) “And the Lord God took the man, and put him into the Garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it. (2:19) “And out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would CALL THEM and whatsoever Adam CALLED every living creature, that was the name thereof”
If your life must be dressed and kept, you must know and understand how to approach both situations and other humans. Adam’s job in the garden was not done with physical hands, all he knew how to do was to talk. The utmost reason Adam left the garden was not because they sinned alone but because he did not also use his communication tool well.
David was in the same fallen age Adam brought (the time where redemption had not yet come). But because of David’s style of approach, God called him a man after his own heart.
David committed all kinds of sin, murder, adultery and so on and so forth and each time he did, he will fall on his face and say, ‘’I have sinned against you and done this evil in your sight’’.
He would cry inconsolably, appeal to God and He will forgive him. David never lost his kingdom, his child reigned after him.
If Adam had adopted the same method, God might not have driven him out of the garden but rather he played the blame game.
(Gen 3:9) And the Lord God called unto Adam, and said unto him, where art thou? And he said, I heard thy voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself. And he said, who told thee that thou were naked? Hast thou eaten of the tree, whereof I commanded thee that thou shouldest not eat? And the man said, the woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat.
When God called upon Adam, if he had laid flat on the ground and said Father here I am, I have sinned against you, and I have eaten of the fruit you asked me not to eat. Father I am so sorry, how could I have been so weak? How could I have done this evil in your sight, in spite of all the opportunities and rights you gave me? Oh daddy I am sorry. I believe the God full of mercy would have looked for a way out for Adam and not lay a curse on him and his wife, instead he played the blame game.
‘’God said: Have you eaten of the fruit I commanded you not to eat’’, He said ‘’the woman you gave me to be with me gave me and I ate’’.
In other words yes I have eaten but, God it is your fault, you brought a woman to be with me. Because of wrong approach Adam left his place of abundance and all his privileges.
Your style of approach and your perception to life will determine whether or not you will stand out in life.
Judas Iscariot sinned, he betrayed his master (Jesus). And lost everything and his life but Peter also sinned, he denied his master and still kept his place in the kingdom
Jesus taught: ’’who so ever denied me before men, I will also deny him before the angels’’, just like he said during dinner ‘’one of you will betray me’’.
It was bad to betray your master; it was also bad to deny your master three times. The difference between Peter and Judas was the approach they had to what they did.
One felt by feeling remorse is to commit suicide; the other felt remorse is by asking for forgiveness. One lived, fulfilled his mission and went to heaven; the other died and went to hell.
Having the right approach to life, is the secret to living a colorful life.
3 secrets that keep you at the top.
a. The way you speak to people: People who know how to talk to others politely and respectfully always win the hearts of people and are also favored. Whether or not you like it, you need the favor of God and men to move forward in life.
b. The way you speak about things: There is nothing God wants humans to understand like the power of the tongue. The bible says ‘’life and death is in the power of the tongue’’. How do you use your mouth when it comes to the situations you face in life? If you can learn to speak positively about things around you, you are sure to stand out among others.
Speaking positive words to negative situations when all hope seems lost, helps build up hope in you. And when you feel you are losing hope, say ‘I cannot be hopeless, I have hope because all things work together for my Good!’’.
Hope brightens your countenance at all times, and that attracts good things to you. The whole world was created by the power of the tongue.
If you can take (mark 11: 23 “For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith”) and constantly rehearse it in your heart, you will enjoy a transformed life.
This is the secret of living a life of health, prosperity, longevity, blessed children and overcoming battles. By speaking what you desire in spite of what you see. God says ‘’those things that are not as though they were”
c. The way you perceive life: No man can rise above his perception to life. You are what you think and see of yourself.
God said to Abraham, ‘’look northwards, eastwards, westwards, as far as your eyes can see unto them will I give you and your seed forever’’. If Abraham saw very little, all he would have had would have been very little. A lot of people are very shallow minded, and that is all they will achieve in life, very little.
Expand your view to life, and then you will see more in life and become a resourceful person to the society and the Kingdom of God.
- Improve on yourself: If you want to stand out among others you must improve yourself.
In today’s world, the more you know the more valuable you become.
You can’t afford to have the same value year in year out. Never be where you are today next month. Set a monthly goal for yourself; this month I should know this more, it could be as a Christian, I want to really know God more this month. I want to read the word 10 minutes every day, target to understand just a verse daily, in 30 days you would have understood 30 more verses of God’s word and the enemy cannot defeat you in that area any more forever.
You can also do that in your home; improve on your relationship with your spouse, and your children.
You can also do that in areas you intend to go into in future or your present work.
People respect you for the values you portray. I may not be vast in all areas, but on this job God gave me, when you hear some knowledge and revelation God is passing through me, you will know I have been given this as an assignment.
Beauty is not enough to make you stand out, but the knowledge in you, the contributions and the value you add to others, is what makes you stand out.
Getting married is not all about looks anymore; it is about the value you can add. And let me tell you, from the beginning it was never about looks.
God says a man will be a provider and leader and the woman a helper. It was all about value not looks. When the servant of Abraham was asking God about a sign for the wife of Isaac he did not talk about looks,
See the kind of prayers he prayed
Genesis 14:24)
He says ‘’let it be a woman I will say, give me water to drink and she will say I will give you and your camels also, let her be the one you had appointed for your servant Isaac’’.
In other words he was looking for a woman that can add value, so marriage is about adding value to one another.
Beauty is an addition and not the major. Rebecca was described to be very beautiful but that was not the criteria for choosing her.
Ways to increase your value
a. Seek knowledge: Seeking knowledge does not mean you read all the words in the English dictionary, but in your area of interest or in all you are involved in, seek to know and always improve on what you know.
b. Consciously apply what you have learnt: information gives birth to knowledge, and the application of knowledge is what is called wisdom.
(Proverbs 1:5) says, ‘’A wise man will hear, and will increase learning and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels’’
For instance, as you are reading this article in this publication, you are getting information on how to improve on your life, marriage, or relationship. This information will give you knowledge in this area, but it will not add much to your life, not until you begin to apply it to your circumstance. This is where a lot of people miss it, it is in the application and that is all that matters.
That is why the bible tells you, not to only be a hearer of the word but a doer.
Because God knows hearing is good but it is the doing that makes all the difference.
c. Work on your temperament: The height you will get to in life depends on your personality which is the bench mark of your life.
You can never go farther than who you are.
What is temperament? Your mood, your disposition, your character, would determine the overall outcome of your life.
No matter how talented you are, if you do not have a good character, you will not go far in life.
Improving your disposition or character is very important if you must stand out in life.
Moses was a man that enjoyed intimacy with God, he was so blessed with an exceptional destiny but he did not end up well due to anger issues.
(Exodus 33:11)And the Lord spoke unto Moses face to face, as a man speaks unto his friend.
He enjoyed the New Testament relationship with God while still in the Old Testament.
Moses wrote the book of creation though he was not yet born at creation.
God sat him down and told him he created the world. With all that he enjoyed both from God and man, his temperament brought him down.
Cain also went down by wrong temperament. “Jealousy”
He got angry with his brother because his sacrifice was accepted by The Lord.
God advised him
(Genesis 4:6-8) The Lord said to Cain, “Why are you angry, and why has your face fallen? If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door. Its desire is for you, but you must rule over it.”
Cain spoke to Abel his brother and when they were in the field, Cain rose up against his brother Abel and killed him.” temperamental problem”
If you must stand out in life, you must work on your character that is not loveable.
You know those characters you have that need to be improved, work on it.
- Anger
- Jealousy
- Gossip
- Stealing
- Argument
- Unforgiveness
- Cheating
- Ungodliness
You being a Christian will not automatically change your character. You need to constantly renew your mind with the word of God.
Any wrong character you do not work on will repel blessings from you and eventually bring you down. It is like you have left open a window for Satan to come into your life.