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The secrets of a blissful Marriage.

    This is a mystery from the institutor, without my own knowledge involved. Know that unbelievers cannot enjoy a blissful marriage; they do not have the grace to. It only reserve for God’s true children.

    1: Communication: you have to first understand marriage is a mystery after the order of the trinity.

    The God the father, son and the Holy Spirit. (And one of the key secrets of the trinity is communication.

    They discuss everything before they embark on it and they are all involved in everything they embark on)
    In the creation of the world. The trinity played as one though, there are three personality

    Genesis 1:1

    In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth. The earth was without form and void, and darkness was over the face of the deep. And the Spirit (they did not say God now but the Spirit which is the Holy Spirit) of God was hovering over the face of the waters.
    And God (God now, did not say the Spirit said) said, “Let there be light,” ( He spoke the Son which is the word)and there was light.

    This is how the trinity operates. I believe strongly it was communicated with the level of cooperation and orderliness before they embarked on it.
    And all the subsequent character of the trinity though that was not recorded.

    When they were about to make man, as in mankind, who will have dominion over all they had created, they sat down and had a discussion
    and in that conversation, they were referring to a man and woman institution, not just as individuals ( Adam and Eve ) but as an institution that will keep man and woman forever on earth and represent their personality on earth.

    (Genesis 1:26) Then God said, “Let us (more than one) make man in our image, after our likeness (pattern). And let them (two) have dominion)
    In this discussion marriage was established.
    A man and woman and the Spirit of God. Making it the image and likeness of the trinity.
    This is why the human personality is also in form of three. The body, the spirit, the soul.

    In the garden of Eden marriage was exactly like the trinity before sin came.
    Marriage was exactly after the order of the trinity (man and his wife and God will come down to be in their midst) and because they followed this order, they enjoy plenty. They had everything in abundance.
    They did not struggle even after Adam and Eve sinned, God still cloth them.

    The reason married people struggle or marriages experience troubles is because they have not pattern their home after the order of God’s personality
    Malachi 2:15 further validate this proof “Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring”

    So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth.)
    The Message bible, explain it this way “God, not you made marriage, His spirit inhabits even the smallest details of marriage. And what does he wants from marriage? Children of God, that what. So guard the spirit of marriage within you. Do not cheat on your wife.
    This clearly started God made marriage and he is the third personality in every marriage

    (if marriage represent trinity then what roles does each one plays)

    Marriage in the order of trinity Man represent (God, the leader, the wife represent Jesus.
    The one who obeys and follow the will of his father, and He is always highly placed in his father’s kingdom and dearly loved because of his obedience the Holy Spirit the Almighty God in the midst of them.

    In this order, they do not fight for superiority. Everyone understands his role and plays it and stay in his glory.

    You will see, God the father, is the one that initiate all the ideals, Jesus does not act on his own but only what He sees the father says or do. Because of that nothing that was made was made without Jesus
    (Colossian1:16 For by him all things were created, in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities—all things were created through him and for him. And he is before all things, and in him all things hold together.)

    Any woman who can understands and follow this order of complete obedience as Jesus is to his father will also be placed In the heart of her husband like the way Christ is placed above all things by his father.

    You cannot separate the trinity, they are one, so should a home that want to be functional and fulfill the purpose of God.
    This is why God says “I hate divorce” because it completely out of the image of God was marriage represents.

    You wife is not your possession but a part of you. In the book of (job 1:12) God gave Satan permission to touch all what job has, but should not touch his life.
    All that Job had was taken, his possessions and his blessings, his children. Did it not surprise you; his wife was not touch all through the challenges.

    Because she was part of job’ flesh not what he has or possess. Even when God gave permission to Satan to touch his flesh. She was still not affected. Because her husband was already taking the pains as the head he shields her from that torture.
    Marriage was established in the likeness of God and for it to succeed you must followed Gods ways and word.
    And one of the strong characters of the trinity is communication

    Communication is a vital part of any great relationship, It is the secret that work every relationship.
    To talk things over on a regular basis is the road that leads to a healthy relationship.
    Everything that will live needs words. This was why in the creation of the world the key force was words, and God said. Let there be light and there was light.

    You can use words to build or break. As couples never conclude on an issue until it discussed.

    Some people actually had taken a decision before they come to discuss it.
    Your aim of discussion should not be how to assert your ideals on your partner but Operate on an open mind.

    Some of you will say God the father own is easy; the other two personalities do not have their own will.
    My wife had her own will and argue everything with me; you are wrong

    No they do, Jesus in his prayers was saying to the father, let this cup pass over me, and later he said, not my will but you will.

    He said in another place, no one lay down my life for me, I lay it down myself.

    The more you communicate positively the more your relationship head in the right direction.
    Poor or no communication will help lead your relationship to the wrong direction.
    Taking in what each other has to say, and supporting each other in a loving way is the food that grows love in families.

    No matter how bad the relationship with your spouse is right now, when you turn to speaking right and communicating right. In no time that relationship will receive life.
    Communication brings about intimacy, and it is essential in marriage like water is to fish.
    Communication is not just talking and listening but making sure you are understood and that is the backbone of every fruitful relationship.

    The more communication in practice, the better it gets.

    The day you allow your relationship to lack communication is the day separation sets in.
    Marriage without effective communication makes divorce inevitable.

    Take time to talk over every unclear issue, and while talking makes sure you do not play the blame game and you will be surprise how better you feel about your spouse will. Somebody once told me, each time I want to clear issues out with my husband we always end up quarreling.
    I said it because of how you presented the issues.
    If you want to sort out issues, do not play the blame game.

    You always do this, you always don’t listen, you…. You…. You…… you

    One of the ways to better communicate with your spouse is when you understand them.
    When you know who your spouse is and what they like, it will help you to know their best style of communication.

    A person you do not know so well, you can easily offend them while talking with them.
    Note, the only way to know or understand a person is still through communication.
    So you see communication bring about understanding, and understanding help you to better communicate.

    A good relationship starts and get better with communication.

    Communication is the beginning and ending of every relationship that will live.
    When you know and understand why you spouse do things in a certain way and he know and understand you as well.
    You will succeed in taking quarrel off your home.

    And that can only be achieved with constant communication. Remember you can never hate a person you understand.

    2: Bring in The Third party (God)
    We had established that marriage was instituted after God three personalities.
    For any marriage to work, the Spirit of God, which is the spirit of marriage, should be practically involved on a daily basis.
    This is where must people miss it, and this is why an unbeliever cannot enjoy a blissful marriage.
    Because they do not have access to the Holy spirit.
    The other name of the Holy Spirit is the “Spirit of peace”.
    When he is invited into a home by the two physical partners, they form a threefold cord that cannot easily be broken.

    When two people are join together, whether in a church, by parents which are the traditional marriage, or law. When you get home. Before you consummate the marriage bed. Invite in the third party.

    (I know questions will come up, is traditional marriage valid, or is court marriage valid. In (Genesis 24:14-61) you will see the marriage between of Rebekah.
    All the marriage recorded in the bible was parental agreement. Which you call traditional marriage.

    So where does the church come in, after your traditional marriage, you can event your pastor to your own city room. He will bless your marriage. When he or her says your marriage is bless in Jesus name.
    Whether you call the name of Jesus in your bed room, in the city room or the church building, it carries the same effect.
    The marriage of Cana that Jesus attended was traditional marriage

    So don’t hold your life in captivity and stay unmarried because you do not yet have money for church wedding.

    Your marriage is not less valid without church wedding or more valid with church wedding.
    Story of a friend.
    Who have to commit abortion because of church wedding? Thousands of people do this, because they believe marriage is church wedding.
    Till date she has no child yet after several years.

    People who commit abortion on even pregnancy that came after traditional marriage, if they knew their pastors can bless their marriage even in their house or pastors house or in church without wearing any white garment and suit, those babies would have been alive.

    If you can afford it, fine and good, I did one, but that is not what work marriage,
    it is the person of the Holy Spirit as the third party in your home that ensure peace.
    Most of the things that will ensure peaceful co -existence between you and your partner need the grace of God to be practiced.
    Forgiveness for instance

    (Secrets that ensure a blissful marriage)

    a. forgiveness: you need the Holy Spirit to heal your heart of an offence, so you can forgive same day.
    A woman who has been cheated on by her husband will not be able to let go it, before the sun goes down. Expect with the help of God.

    So note the person that makes marriage blissful is God not the kind of marriage celebration you had.

    How do you get the Holy Spirit involved on your daily life.

    Through Prayers; both of you need to daily communicate with you third personality.

    a. You must talk to him on your daily activities between the two of you,
    b. You must Thank him for areas working
    c. Must let him know areas experiencing difficulties
    d. You must daily ask for grace to treat your partner right and understand them as yourself
    e. You must obey all he lay in your heart to do and the once already written out for all concerning your life and your home.
    Any home where these (three personality in marriage) trinity communications is daily practiced enjoy marital bliss.

    3: develop God kind of heart

    Some of the qualities of the heart of God
    a) love: to succeed in an institution pattern after GOD, you must possess Gods personalities; one of them is unconditional love.

    He has demonstrated his love to us in so many ways,
    God is love, what you do or do not do notwithstanding. Immediately Adam and Eve disobeyed Him in the garden, of Eden, He was angry and laid curse because of their disobedience, but not long after then, he had compassion on them, still sowed leaves and cloth them.

    (Genesis 3:23) And the Lord God made for Adam and for his wife garments of skins and clothed them.

    That is a heart of love,
    B) He forgives all wrongs: you can never enjoy any relationship without forgiveness because offences will come, and the only thing that keeps the air flesh is forgiveness.
    C) He cares
    D) He gives
    e) He understands
    F) He appreciate
    G) He is selfless
    H)He rewards
    I) He is patient
    J) He is kind

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